Jews have been doing a lot of sexist and misogynist things for 2000 years, but that doesn't make them acceptable. I agree that there is tension between "tradition", which is often deeply flawed, harmful and unjust, and efforts to repair those flaws without losing the connection that gives it value, but I don't agree that tradition automatically trumps equality. I think it is more important to not be sexist than it is to be "traditional", whatever that means for each individual person.

All the English words are recent translations anyway, and it's extremely inconsistent to insist on sticking to the grammatical Hebrew gender for God but not for, say, a table or river.

I'm confused: are you seriously disputing that "lord" is gendered male? I rent from a landlady. I think this reflects the same problem that "Lord" as an address for God has, which is the false idea that gendered-male is gender-neutral/normative.

I'm not sure what you mean by "how idolatrous" -- are you asking about degree or quality?