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Friday, March 20th, 2009 08:59 am
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Auntie has an article this morning entitled "Mrs? Or is that Ms, Miss?". Personally, I can sympathise with not wanting to have your marital status necessarily conveyed in your title; for those who cannot, it might be instructive to consider how you might feel if the shoe was on the other foot.

When I get called up in shul for an aliyah, in my own minyan, Assif, I am called up by my own name. But in my parents' shul in Newcastle, I'll be given a title which depends on my marital status: When I get called up, it's as ha-bochur <my-name>, whereas when my father gets called up, it's as reb <his-name>.

Like with referring to married women with their husband's first initial or even first name, it's something I didn't even bat an eyelid at when I grew up, but strikes me as strange now.

Date: 2009-03-20 04:41 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] liv
Before I could get out of it by being called "Dr", I never used to mind if people called me "Miss". I'm generally quite happy with the fact that I'm not married, so I don't mind who knows it. But it's odd that your parents' shul call you up as "lad"; I've only ever heard that done at bar mitzvahs. In a situation where an unmarried person is considered not really adult, I agree that you shouldn't have to broadcast your marital status to everyone.

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