Banned

[lethargic_man]

I've just discovered I've been banned from commenting in a friend's journal, whether on LJ or DW. If this person had a problem with things I'd said, it would have been polite at least to raise them with me. Well, I too can play the blunt weapon gambit: one defriending on LJ, DW, Facebook and RL coming up.

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[liv]

Meep, sorry that happened to you. I think refusing to be friends with someone at all because they banned you from commenting is a bit OTT, though. They might have banned you by accident, or they might have banned you for some reason that isn't particularly personal, like, say, they can't deal with your style of comments just now. I agree the most polite thing to do would have been to talk to you about what about your comments was causing a problem, but personally I would not break a friendship because of one small lapse of politeness.

[lethargic_man]

One doesn't get banned by accident on both LJ and DW. I've discovered this person has already disappeared from my friends list on Facebook, so presumably blocked me there too. Blocked in three different places: if this isn't a message of "I don't want to have anything to do with you", what is?

I know I and this person do not see eye to eye on certain religious matters, but to my knowledge we've never had an argument over it or anything else.

[liv]

In any case, I'm sorry that someone you considered a friend has treated you so badly.

[lethargic_man]

This person will be coming to your birthday party; given that there's only a small number of people involved, this is further disincentive for me to attend, I'm afraid. (I have been to one other event with a small number of people present where this person was there, but they turned up very late, which gave me, who'd been there a good while, a good excuse to leave not long after.)

[green_knight]

There probably isn't a good way of stepping back from a casual relationship (Captain Awkward suggests an African Violet: I like you, but I want to see less of you; so far it hasn't caught on in the wider world), but I'd say that multi-site blocking is a pretty obvious signal, and not a good way of handling it.
I've recently been unfriended on LJ/DW - also without explanation - by someone I've known for many years and considered a friend. I only found out because another friend was saying 'so-and-so's latest entry' I went 'I haven't seen that yet' and found that I could not. But while unfriending can be a case of 'I can't deal with your content, I need to step back and look after myself' banning is a much stronger act, and impossible to do accidentally in multiple places.

So, yeah, that sucks, and that doesn't sound much like someone whose company you should seek. It's ok not to like other people (or other people's opinions); but friends talk.